My sister June shared this with me today...,
A cruise ship met with an incident at sea, on the ship was a pair of couple, after having made their way to the lifeboat, they realized that there was only space for one person left.
At this moment, the man pushed the woman behind him and jumped onto the lifeboat himself.
The lady stood on the sinking ship and shouted one sentence to her husband.
The teacher stopped and asked, "What do you think she shouted?"
Most of the students excitedly answered, "I hate you! I was blind!"
Now, the teacher noticed a boy who was silent throughout, she got him to answer and he replied, "Teacher, I believe she would have shouted - Take care of our child!"
The teacher was surprised, asking "Have you heard this story before?"
The boy shook his head, "Nope, but that was what my mum told my dad before she died to disease".
The teacher lamented, "The answer is right".
The cruise sunk, the man went home and brought up their daughter single-handedly.
Many years later after the death of the man, their daughter found his diary while tidying his belongings.
It turns out that when parents went onto the cruise ship, the mother was already diagnosed with a terminal illness.
At the critical moment, the father rushed to the only chance of survival.
He wrote in his diary, "How I wished to sink to the bottom of the ocean with you, but for the sake of our daughter, I can only let you lie forever below the sea alone".
The story is finished, the class was silent.
The teacher knows that the student has understood the moral of the story, that of the good and the evil in the world, there are many complications behind them which are hard to understand.
Which is why we should never only focus on the surface and judge others without understanding them first.
Those who like to pay the bill, do so not because they are loaded but because they value friendship above money.
Those who take the initiative at work, do so not because they are stupid but because they understand the concept of responsibility.
Those who apologizes first after a fight, do so not because they are wrong but because they are willing to be wronged.
Those who are willing to help you, do so not because they owe you any thing but because they are willing.
I was blogging about one of the symptoms of menopause and it brought back memories of my own mother experiencing hot flushes 30 years ago. My mom is 73 this year and because she started her menstruation at the age of 9, she started menopausing earlier too.
I wish I had known about the different ways to treat hot flushes when my mom was suffering. She would complain to us that she woke up perspiring in the middle of the night and she would hv mood swings and didn't know why.
Both my sister June and I would listen and minutes later forget about what she said, not taking her seriously. ( June please correct me here if my memory has failed me). I can only imagine how lost my mom would have felt. She wasn't very educated and Internet was not a big thing then for us to search for answers online.
But my mom was fortunate to hv her sister Aunt Sofia who was a doctor in Malaysia and she could give some advice to my mom. Still, I wish I had given her some answers and helped her in some ways. I feel guilty about not being there for her.
I could have taken my mom's complaints seriously and gone to the local library to look for answers. I could have comforted her. I could have.... I could have....Oh how I wish I had done my part as a good daughter. Anand, my darling husband, says even till today that I wasn't matured enough to know what to do, that I didn't ignore my mom intentionally.
There are so many regrets in life which weigh you down as time goes by. You wish you hadn't done many things or you wish you had done somethings better, you play a certain incident so many times in your head wishing you had used your head more instead of your heart or vice versa.....
Regrets regrets regrets.....
Regrets are actually life's lessons. We make mistakes, sometimes irreversible ones, but we learn from them. A lyric line from Adele's song ' Someone Like You' is something we can all relate to - 'Regrets and mistakes they are memories made....' Somehow we have to come to peace with our regrets and let them go, no matter how difficult it can be....Imagine them tied to balloons and slowly drifting away into the far horizon....
Let's all not be weighed down by regrets but instead Love everyone near and far, Laugh our hearts out and Live like there is no tomorrow....
A close friend of mine in Spore challenged me today to make a cookie or a biscuit that requires no baking, no refrigeration or even heating.
I thought to myself no heating and no refrigeration too? Where in the world could I find that recipe? I chanced upon an interesting one in Pinterest but tweaked it so that I could combine and gather the cookie dough easily.
I have posted the recipe in Healthy Veg Food Ideas. Check it out. I am deeply grateful to my darling friend for challenging me. This shows If you have the will, you will find a way!!I discovered the yummy combination of Peanut Butter, Honey, Oatmeal and Ground Flaxseed by attempting this recipe.
So healthy and yet so delicious !
Riya gave it a thumbs up and found it very filling after just trying 2 while Ranya went ' Mom, it won't sell. It tastes too healthy!' :))
I don't want to blow my own horn here, but I woke up today morning feeling very proud of myself for recreating a dish.
You see, near to where we reside, is an Italian Restaurant called Radice ( pronounced Ra Di Che). I chanced upon it when we went over for one of Riya's friend's David's birthday party. It is an expensive restaurant. A dinner for 4 will set you back by $100.
While we there during the birthday celebration, they served us this delicious pizza with toppings of spinach, wild mushrooms and a different kind of gourmet cheese. I loved it, so did Anand and now my girls have jumped on the bandwagon too. It was called Boscaiola Pizza. I decided to attempt making this pizza since I can't be purchasing pizzas from them at US$16 for just 6 slices!!
I went searching for that cheese, it was Fontina anyway. Then I sourced for the spinach but couldn't find wild mushrooms, so stuck with button mushrooms. Researched on the Internet on how it could have been done. There wasn't any Boscaiola Pizza recipe. So I decided to try it out on my own last night. I told Anand before attempting , that if I could bake this Pizza, I am going to throw hats off to myself!!
It was a complete success!! I was dumbfounded. I was very proud of myself that I could recreate the exact pizza on my first attempt.
Anand declared that I am the best cook in the world. Coming from someone who glorifies his mom as a wonderful cook, that was something.
What a wonderful feeling of accomplishment :))
I have posted a photo of the pizza we bought from Radice here. And I have just posted the recipe for this gourmet pizza under Healthy Veg Food Ideas.
The article below is written by a lady Mrs. Chithra Vishwanathan, who's a famous cooking expert. Really a good read!
Bluebell, PA experiences very extreme temperatures. It is -3 deg C ( 27 deg F) outside right now (8am today) but the wind blowing at 10 kph makes it feel like -7!
I hv come from sunny Singapore in SouthEast Asia with temperatures at late 20s ( 80 F) and early 30s deg C. It is humid and you start perspiring like crazy and the stickiness hits you the moment you land at the airport. But I'll trade that climate anytime to what I am experiencing here.
It is cold 7 months of the year in the Eastern side of America and the only respite of warm weather lasts from May - Sep. It's bitter painful cold now. It's not nice cold. My face hurt when I walked out to drop Riya to the bus stop just for a few mins. My ears and nose froze. I rushed back immediately.
Did I mention I slipped and fell early yesterday morning on Black Ice ( frozen icy roads and walkways) while dropping Ranya to the bus stop? My hip hurts and I can't help wondering what more is in store in this place with this crazy weather??!! I can't believe people actually make this place their home. Anand says if you don't know there is a better place elsewhere, you'll just resign to where you are. And for some it is where they grew up, their home. Nothing else counts. True.
I feel for all the animals out in the cold who have no warm houses to cuddle up in. Squirrels and birds which use to frequent our backyard have disappeared. Nature intended for them to find their own ways to keep warm but still you can't not feel for them and pray they last thru this bitter winter.
Apologies for my absence. The flu virus took its toll on me. I was flat out on bed drifting in and out of consciousness.
Apparently the virus had mutated and is now an even more serious hard to beat kind. Even though Anand, my husband, just had a flu shot he wasn't spared because of the mutation. Both Anand and I agreed that this flu attack was the worse we have gone thru.
But the worse part was the lack of support system. Back home, I would hv my mom or my sister or my close friends bring over convalescent food to recover. Or to simply talk to me to comfort me. Here I am devoid of that. For the last three days, I just drank soy milk and ate cereal while I was longing for all the food that I used to devour in Singapore ( space here will not be enough to list all of them!!)
And the mega worse part ?? I just lost 1 kg!!!
But it was beautiful to wake up to a white pristine scenery....
Friends and family close to me are aware that my entire family is down with one of the worst cases of flu we have ever ever experienced.
It all started when Riya, my younger 10 year old daughter, returned home from school two weeks ago feeling unwell. She had brought back a note from her school nurse informing that there has been a case of strep throat infection in her class. Riya complained of a scratchy throat. From then on, our family's health went downhill.
We had to go for our holiday in Orlando, Florida as we couldn't cancel our flight and hotel at the last min. The closed air conditioned room and Riya's insistence to swim in the inviting pool made it all worse. She threw up many times, refused to eat anything because of the fear of throwing up and became quite delusional. We immediately brought her to see a doc when we returned to Bluebell on Sat 27 Dec.
Subsequently, Anand and my older daughter succumbed to the flu. This time, nothing seemed to kill the infection. I was not feeling well either but I had no choice but to soldier on.
So, here we are still unwell, having gone thru New Year's Eve and the first day of the New Year huddled up under a blanket with myriad of medicines next to us.
What a bummer start to 2015!!
Continuing on the topic of flu, I have blogged about the many ways to avoid a flu or a cold under ' Health Tip Of the Day'
My home is
usually in a mess and has dust settled on almost everything. But I believe laughter and love will win the day. In 20 years, my girls won't remember how messy the house was but will remember the time we spent together and the love they felt...