Before I moved to my current place along Upper East Coast Rd in Singapore in 2008, I used to live in a housing estate called Pasir Ris within northeast Singapore. I lived there between 2002 to 2007 and it was my very first house my husband and I owned after our marriage.
This house is close to my heart and holds many special memories - this is where my darling daughters Ranya and Riya took their first baby steps, this where I first started my home jewelry business Fine Regalia and significantly this is where I made close bonds with 4 special ladies - Yew Hong, Malar, Debbie and Kris.
When my girls were very young they would often play in the playground just below our apartment block. It was a hangout for us ladies too - we will exchange so many juicy gossips and recipes. I will get tips on bringing up my girls from these friends because their kids were much older and they had so many experiences to share. My friends were constant fixtures at my girls' birthday parties held annually at my place and they would often help out too. Remember 'Tatoo lady' Malar? :))
When Kris found out that I was pregnant with my second baby Riya, she willingly brought dinner for me one night when my husband was travelling and I was all alone with my 1 year old daughter Ranya... It was a simple dish of lentils and dosa batter but it made a world of difference to me. I had something to eat. You might not remember this - thank you dear Kris.
One night my 1 year old Ranya was ill and tearing and refused to get off my hips because of fear and discomfort. Again my husband was travelling and my mom lived quite far away to make a trip down. I was lost as to how I can wash the milk bottles so that I can make milk for Ranya. I called my neighbor Malar who lived just across the floor. It was rather late - around 9pm and a weekday. Her son had to go to sleep to wake up fresh for school the next day. In a minute, she was at my doorstep and she immediately started washing the bottles while her son Ruban sat in the kitchen eating a slice of cheese trying very hard to keep awake. I remember the night so clearly like it just happened yesterday. Truly a selfless gesture. Thank you Malar.
And Yew Hong -I can relate a lot to her. She is born in the same Chinese Zodiac year. We are 12 years apart but we connect so well. Yew Hong is always so down to earth and very practical. Her words of wisdom are priceless. When she is out having breakfast with her husband, she never fails to get me somethings I had requested. I had planted a Jackfruit tree right outside our block and Yew Hong tended to it so gently when we moved to our current place. When the tree bore fruits, she drove over to pass the jackfruits to us. Amazing. Thank you Yew Hong.
Last but not least - Debbie. Hmmm what can I say about Debbie? She lives a little further away and I didn't see her that often but her humor never fails to brighten up our days...thank you Debbie. You are truly a good hearted person. I'll always remember that garlic is an aphrodisiac and that it works very well because of you 😜😜.
I am the youngest among the 5 of us and a few years ago, I had a fallout with these special ladies. But it took me some growing up and a move to America to come to my senses. Yesterday, after more than 2 years, we all reconnected again over a meal. It was wonderful - we chatted as if time had stood still and nothing had changed between us.
Thank you my special 'Pasir Ris Babes' for everything you have done for me and for welcoming me back into your lives again. I appreciate our friendship and love all of you with my heart. I am going to miss all of you all over again when I leave for America next month.
My home is
usually in a mess and has dust settled on almost everything. But I believe laughter and love will win the day. In 20 years, my girls won't remember how messy the house was but will remember the time we spent together and the love they felt...