I was blogging about one of the symptoms of menopause and it brought back memories of my own mother experiencing hot flushes 30 years ago. My mom is 73 this year and because she started her menstruation at the age of 9, she started menopausing earlier too.
I wish I had known about the different ways to treat hot flushes when my mom was suffering. She would complain to us that she woke up perspiring in the middle of the night and she would hv mood swings and didn't know why.
Both my sister June and I would listen and minutes later forget about what she said, not taking her seriously. ( June please correct me here if my memory has failed me). I can only imagine how lost my mom would have felt. She wasn't very educated and Internet was not a big thing then for us to search for answers online.
But my mom was fortunate to hv her sister Aunt Sofia who was a doctor in Malaysia and she could give some advice to my mom. Still, I wish I had given her some answers and helped her in some ways. I feel guilty about not being there for her.
I could have taken my mom's complaints seriously and gone to the local library to look for answers. I could have comforted her. I could have.... I could have....Oh how I wish I had done my part as a good daughter. Anand, my darling husband, says even till today that I wasn't matured enough to know what to do, that I didn't ignore my mom intentionally.
There are so many regrets in life which weigh you down as time goes by. You wish you hadn't done many things or you wish you had done somethings better, you play a certain incident so many times in your head wishing you had used your head more instead of your heart or vice versa.....
Regrets regrets regrets.....
Regrets are actually life's lessons. We make mistakes, sometimes irreversible ones, but we learn from them. A lyric line from Adele's song ' Someone Like You' is something we can all relate to - 'Regrets and mistakes they are memories made....' Somehow we have to come to peace with our regrets and let them go, no matter how difficult it can be....Imagine them tied to balloons and slowly drifting away into the far horizon....
Let's all not be weighed down by regrets but instead Love everyone near and far, Laugh our hearts out and Live like there is no tomorrow....
My home is
usually in a mess and has dust settled on almost everything. But I believe laughter and love will win the day. In 20 years, my girls won't remember how messy the house was but will remember the time we spent together and the love they felt...